The Betari Box packs a punch. It appears simple on the surface but, on closer inspection, turns out to have real power and nuance. Managing interpersonal skills can be tricky at the best of times. Analysing and understanding complex human interactions can be confusing and frustrating. I have yet to encounter a model more useful … Continue reading Betari Box Brilliance
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New Year Resolutions – 5 Sticky Tips
It's new year resolutions time. The last three hundred and sixty-five days have passed in a blur. You hear yourself saying, "After one last drink and the fireworks, I'm off and running on my new mission. And I mean it this time!" The clock strikes twelve, people sing songs and kisses get kissed. You swear … Continue reading New Year Resolutions – 5 Sticky Tips
Work Smart AND Hard
"Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard." Tim Notke Work smart AND hard instead of work smart NOT hard. One small word change, using "and" rather than "not", makes a world of difference to your outcomes. The problem with the "Work smart NOT hard" approach There is nothing wrong with the phrase "work … Continue reading Work Smart AND Hard
Get “Happy Places”
Where are my “happy places?” I have many happy places. They are all very close to my heart and I use them often. I rely on them. They are my special collection of memories and projections. My happy places are positive memories of physical locations, people, experiences, and events. My happy places are sometimes projections … Continue reading Get “Happy Places”
Monitor Your Emotions
Why should you monitor your emotions? Emotions are a key part of your life. They can help you to understand yourself better, and they are also important for your understanding of other people. The human brain is a complex organ with many functions. It is the most important part of your body and without it, … Continue reading Monitor Your Emotions
“Project You”
This extensive article is all about encouraging you to adopt a scientific approach to your self-confidence development with you (hence the term “Project You”) as the main object of your study, research, and experimentation. Some questions. Do you struggle with overwhelm when thinking about self-confidence? Do you just try random things and hope something sticks? … Continue reading “Project You”
Total Ownership is the First Step to Building Real Self-Confidence
Before we begin Total ownership is super-important because any form of personal change rarely starts with a new technique or strategy. It starts with a shift in responsibility. Total ownership is not about blame or control over everything. It is about accepting full responsibility for your responses, decisions, and contribution to the direction of your … Continue reading Total Ownership is the First Step to Building Real Self-Confidence
Emotional Intelligence During Uncertainty and Staying Grounded
Before we begin Emotional Intelligence during uncertainty. Periods of uncertainty don’t just disrupt plans, they expose how people think, regulate themselves, and relate to others under pressure. When familiar structures weaken, emotional habits become more visible. This article is not about eliminating fear or pretending uncertainty doesn’t exist. It’s about how emotional intelligence helps you … Continue reading Emotional Intelligence During Uncertainty and Staying Grounded
Managing Relationships & EI
Before we begin By mid-life, most people already know that relationships matter. What they underestimate is how often recurring relationship problems are the result of unexamined patterns rather than bad luck or difficult people. Managing relationships is where emotional intelligence becomes visible. It is the point at which self-awareness, self-regulation, and understanding others either translate … Continue reading Managing Relationships & EI
Understanding Others & EI
Before we begin Understanding others is often treated as a social skill. As something useful for influence, rapport, or persuasion. In reality, it is a far more demanding discipline than that. By mid-life, repeated misunderstandings, strained relationships, and unnecessary friction are rarely caused by a lack of intelligence or intent. They are usually the result … Continue reading Understanding Others & EI