It's new year resolutions time. The last three hundred and sixty-five days have passed in a blur. You hear yourself saying, "After one last drink and the fireworks, I'm off and running on my new mission. And I mean it this time!" The clock strikes twelve, people sing songs and kisses get kissed. You swear … Continue reading New year resolutions – 5 sticky tips
Total Ownership
Work smart AND hard EI Tip 6
"Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard." Tim Notke Work smart AND hard instead of work smart NOT hard. One small word change, using "and" rather than "not", makes a world of difference to your outcomes. The problem with the "Work smart NOT hard" approach There is nothing wrong with the phrase "work … Continue reading Work smart AND hard EI Tip 6
Get “Happy Places” EI Tip 5
Where are my “happy places?” I have many happy places. They are all very close to my heart and I use them often. I rely on them. They are my special collection of memories and projections. My happy places are positive memories of physical locations, people, experiences, and events. My happy places are sometimes projections … Continue reading Get “Happy Places” EI Tip 5
Bin your negativity
Why should you bin your negativity? Chronic and deep negativity put a huge dampener on my self-confidence for most of my life up until my mid to late thirties. Looking back on it I see all the wasted opportunities for happiness and achievement littering my memories like field rubbish after a music festival. I had … Continue reading Bin your negativity
Emotional Button Pushers EI Tip 2
Have you ever encountered one of life’s emotional button pushers? Picture this scene. You have a meeting with the upwardly mobile and ambitious manager of the finance department. They regard you as internal competition in the promotion stakes. You and your team really need their green light for project X and you are not looking … Continue reading Emotional Button Pushers EI Tip 2
Emotional Triggers EI Tip 1
Picture the scene. You are out and about, on your own or perhaps with loved ones or friends. You are going about your day and feeling good. Seemingly out of nowhere all of this changes. Something happens or someone does something which makes you so angry you find yourself instantly raging and out of control. … Continue reading Emotional Triggers EI Tip 1
“Project You”
This extensive article is all about encouraging you to adopt a scientific approach to your self-confidence development with you (hence the term “Project You”) as the main object of your study, research, and experimentation. BTW - if you prefer an audio version of this to listen to, I have included one just for you at … Continue reading “Project You”
Fighting low self-confidence
This is just a quick post about my ongoing fight against low self-confidence. BTW - if you prefer an audio version of this to listen to, I have included one just for you at the end of this article - enjoy. I am all about developing and maintaining my self-confidence and emotional intelligence (EI). If … Continue reading Fighting low self-confidence
Total ownership is key
Taking total ownership turned my life around a few years ago – about twenty-one years ago to be precise – I am fifty-six at time of writing. BTW - if you prefer an audio version of this, I have included one just for you at the end of this article. I am in a constant … Continue reading Total ownership is key
Personal philosophies rock
Personal philosophies? I can almost hear you asking, “Philosophy is something done by ancient professors in dusty reading rooms high up in their ivory towers, isn’t it? What does any of that have to do with me?” I contend that philosophy is more relevant than ever and holding well-formed and dynamic personal philosophies is especially … Continue reading Personal philosophies rock