What is compound personal growth and why should you even care? I often talk about using the "Baby Step" approach to achieve goals, make changes, and create new and lasting habits. I wrote a blog post on this which you can read here. There are several particularly good reasons why I recommend embracing the baby … Continue reading Compound Personal Growth
Emotional Intelligence
Bin Your Negativity
Why should you bin your negativity? Chronic and deep negativity put a huge dampener on my self-confidence for most of my life up until my mid to late thirties. Looking back on it I see all the wasted opportunities for happiness and achievement littering my memories like field rubbish after a music festival. I had … Continue reading Bin Your Negativity
Monitor Your Emotions
Why should you monitor your emotions? Emotions are a key part of your life. They can help you to understand yourself better, and they are also important for your understanding of other people. The human brain is a complex organ with many functions. It is the most important part of your body and without it, … Continue reading Monitor Your Emotions
Emotional Button Pushers
Have you ever encountered one of life’s emotional button pushers? Picture this scene. You have a meeting with the upwardly mobile and ambitious manager of the finance department. They regard you as internal competition in the promotion stakes. You and your team really need their green light for project X and you are not looking … Continue reading Emotional Button Pushers
Emotional Triggers
Picture the scene. You are out and about, on your own or perhaps with loved ones or friends. You are going about your day and feeling good. Seemingly out of nowhere all of this changes. Something happens or someone does something which makes you so angry you find yourself instantly raging and out of control. … Continue reading Emotional Triggers
“Project You”
This extensive article is all about encouraging you to adopt a scientific approach to your self-confidence development with you (hence the term “Project You”) as the main object of your study, research, and experimentation. Some questions. Do you struggle with overwhelm when thinking about self-confidence? Do you just try random things and hope something sticks? … Continue reading “Project You”
Values Matter
Core values are hugely important to me, and they are vital to my emotional intelligence. Values have real power. I had a recent reminder of this from an unexpected source. I was running a multi-day corporate training session in a genuinely delightful hotel with enthusiastic, effective, and super-organised staff. Despite being well-organised and prepared, things … Continue reading Values Matter
Total Ownership is the First Step to Building Real Self-Confidence
Before we begin Total ownership is super-important because any form of personal change rarely starts with a new technique or strategy. It starts with a shift in responsibility. Total ownership is not about blame or control over everything. It is about accepting full responsibility for your responses, decisions, and contribution to the direction of your … Continue reading Total Ownership is the First Step to Building Real Self-Confidence
Emotional Intelligence is Neutral: EI Is a Tool, Not a Moral Trait
Before we begin It's time to think of Emotional Intelligence as a tool and not a moral feature. Emotional intelligence is often spoken about as if it were a moral quality, i.e. something that automatically makes a person good, kind, or trustworthy. This assumption creates confusion and unrealistic expectations. This article takes a different position. … Continue reading Emotional Intelligence is Neutral: EI Is a Tool, Not a Moral Trait
Emotional Intelligence During Uncertainty and Staying Grounded
Before we begin Emotional Intelligence during uncertainty. Periods of uncertainty don’t just disrupt plans, they expose how people think, regulate themselves, and relate to others under pressure. When familiar structures weaken, emotional habits become more visible. This article is not about eliminating fear or pretending uncertainty doesn’t exist. It’s about how emotional intelligence helps you … Continue reading Emotional Intelligence During Uncertainty and Staying Grounded