The Quiet Skill That Shapes Everything If you operate in any sort of professional setting you'll have likely seen this type of emotional self-control breakdown. For example, imagine you’re in a high-stakes board meeting or a critical project briefing. A professional with decades of experience, impeccable credentials, and a track record of success receives a … Continue reading Emotional Self-Control is the Most Underrated Life Skill
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Emotional Intelligence Under Pressure: Why Staying Calm Matters
Pressure Reveals Our Emotional Habits Emotional Intelligence under pressure can leave us wanting. This article looks at why and what you can do about it. You have probably seen this happen in a routine project meeting or mid-week team get together. A capable, experienced professional, perhaps someone known for their technical skill and reliability, receives … Continue reading Emotional Intelligence Under Pressure: Why Staying Calm Matters
Personal Influence Defence System – PIDS
This well-known 17th century philosopher developed a Personal Influence Defence System. So should you. “De Omnibus Dubitandum” [Doubt everything] René Descartes My use of his quote may sound overly cynical to you but maintain full awareness that, on any given day, you will be subjected to myriad influencing attempts by others. Likewise, you will frequently … Continue reading Personal Influence Defence System – PIDS
Emotional Response Control
Emotional response control is a powerful approach to master. Have you noticed how some people seem to glide through life effortlessly. Never getting ruffled. They never seem to let anyone else, “Push their buttons.” They very likely have high emotional intelligence, and they will be applying effective emotional response control strategies. Anyone can learn such … Continue reading Emotional Response Control
Stop and Recharge
I had to properly stop and recharge at the end of last year. The last few years have been brutal and for a variety of reasons which I’m not going to recount here. Not only me of course, pretty much everyone has been under the same cosh. I do love to work hard, and this … Continue reading Stop and Recharge
Emotional Triggers
Picture the scene. You are out and about, on your own or perhaps with loved ones or friends. You are going about your day and feeling good. Seemingly out of nowhere all of this changes. Something happens or someone does something which makes you so angry you find yourself instantly raging and out of control. … Continue reading Emotional Triggers
Self-regulation & EI
Before we begin By mid-life, most people already know what they should be doing differently. The real problem is not a lack of insight, information, or intention, it’s the growing gap between decision and action. Self-regulation is where emotional intelligence either becomes real or quietly collapses. This is the point at which awareness is tested, … Continue reading Self-regulation & EI
Self-awareness & EI
Before we begin Self-awareness is widely talked about, often admired, and rarely taken seriously enough. Most people believe they already know themselves reasonably well until patterns begin repeating in ways they can’t explain or easily change. In mid-life, self-awareness stops being a philosophical interest and becomes a practical necessity. Blind spots that once felt tolerable … Continue reading Self-awareness & EI
Emotional Intelligence is Vital!
Before we begin By mid-life, most people already have a working understanding of emotional intelligence at least in theory. They’ve heard the language, recognised the behaviours, and may even see the patterns in themselves and others. What’s often missing is not awareness, but consequence. At this stage of life, emotional blind spots stop being abstract. … Continue reading Emotional Intelligence is Vital!