Pressure Reveals Our Emotional Habits Emotional Intelligence under pressure can leave us wanting. This article looks at why and what you can do about it. You have probably seen this happen in a routine project meeting or mid-week team get together. A capable, experienced professional, perhaps someone known for their technical skill and reliability, receives … Continue reading Emotional Intelligence Under Pressure: Why Staying Calm Matters
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Emotional Response Control
Emotional response control is a powerful approach to master. Have you noticed how some people seem to glide through life effortlessly. Never getting ruffled. They never seem to let anyone else, “Push their buttons.” They very likely have high emotional intelligence, and they will be applying effective emotional response control strategies. Anyone can learn such … Continue reading Emotional Response Control
Stop and Recharge
I had to properly stop and recharge at the end of last year. The last few years have been brutal and for a variety of reasons which I’m not going to recount here. Not only me of course, pretty much everyone has been under the same cosh. I do love to work hard, and this … Continue reading Stop and Recharge
Get “Happy Places”
Where are my “happy places?” I have many happy places. They are all very close to my heart and I use them often. I rely on them. They are my special collection of memories and projections. My happy places are positive memories of physical locations, people, experiences, and events. My happy places are sometimes projections … Continue reading Get “Happy Places”
Compound Personal Growth
What is compound personal growth and why should you even care? I often talk about using the "Baby Step" approach to achieve goals, make changes, and create new and lasting habits. I wrote a blog post on this which you can read here. There are several particularly good reasons why I recommend embracing the baby … Continue reading Compound Personal Growth
Emotional Triggers
Picture the scene. You are out and about, on your own or perhaps with loved ones or friends. You are going about your day and feeling good. Seemingly out of nowhere all of this changes. Something happens or someone does something which makes you so angry you find yourself instantly raging and out of control. … Continue reading Emotional Triggers
Handling Mistakes with Confidence: Emotional Intelligence in Action
Before we begin Handling mistakes with confidence, especially in social situations, benefits from heightened Emotional Intelligence skills. I call it, "Emotional Intelligence in Action." Emotional intelligence is often discussed in abstract terms, awareness, regulation, empathy, composure. What’s less commonly explored is how it actually shows up in unscripted, mildly awkward, real-world moments. This short piece … Continue reading Handling Mistakes with Confidence: Emotional Intelligence in Action
Self-regulation & EI
Before we begin By mid-life, most people already know what they should be doing differently. The real problem is not a lack of insight, information, or intention, it’s the growing gap between decision and action. Self-regulation is where emotional intelligence either becomes real or quietly collapses. This is the point at which awareness is tested, … Continue reading Self-regulation & EI
Emotional Intelligence is Vital!
Before we begin By mid-life, most people already have a working understanding of emotional intelligence at least in theory. They’ve heard the language, recognised the behaviours, and may even see the patterns in themselves and others. What’s often missing is not awareness, but consequence. At this stage of life, emotional blind spots stop being abstract. … Continue reading Emotional Intelligence is Vital!